One of the toughest things after a breakup is getting control of your raging emotions.
It can be extremely difficult to see life as you once did, before you met the person who threw your life into such chaos.
But in reality, it's not the end of the world to break up. The reason we feel so out of control after a breakup is that it's a huge CHANGE, and human beings do not respond well to change. And no one teaches us in high school how to deal with relationship problems, sadly.
(Wish they'd taught that in home ec, don't you?)
So what we have to do is get control of the raging emotions and start to recover, to heal.
The best way to do that is to avoid depression. This is very important. One of the toughest things to deal with in a breakup is depression; it can honestly be crippling.
You can try meds, if it gets to that point. But there are natural ways to deal with depression in a breakup and get control of your emotions.
In terms of fighting depression, the best ways are:
1. Feed yourself well. Keep a healthy diet with whole grains, fresh fruits and veggies, and limit sweets. Also, watch portion control.
2. Get some physical activity every day. Even 30 minutes of brisk walking can make a big difference. Exercise is CRUCIAL; it releases seratonin, a feel-good chemical in the brain. This really helps with depression after a breakup.
3. Call friends, and get support from your family. People love to help, and you NEED help - emotional support - after a breakup. Connect with your friends and family, and avoid isolation.
These are some great ways to avoid the pitfalls of despair and depression after a breakup. I highly encourage you to at least use one of these methods.
It's also really important to go easy on yourself. Remember; you're suffering, and you're in a tough time emotionally. Allow yourself some slack. Don't try to make any major life changes, as the worst life changes are often made in times of emotional duress.
When you've allowed some time to pass, you can finally start to reconnect after the breakup. Keep in mind that you should allow at least 30 days to pass before you contact your ex.
This time frame, this "cooling off" period, will allow you both to get some emotional distance on the problem. When you next talk, you'll be in a much better frame of mind.
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