People see a successful relationship and they get envious.
"Well, how the heck do they do it? They're still married after 45 years. How can they possibly keep their relationship thriving?"
There's no big secret. All it takes is passion.
Passion is the key element that every thriving relationship must have. Without shared passion - for each other, for your interests, and for the relationship - there is really no hope of keeping it alive and strong.
If a relationship has shared passion, you will stand much greater chances of getting through the fighting periods and making it past arguments/squabbles.
Arguments are the results of heated emotions (which are often the result of passion). There's a very fine line between love and hate. We can go from feeling intense love for someone to intense annoyance in a short span of time.
But that enduring, critical factor that keeps a relationship going is passion. If you have it - you're set.
Keep this in mind when you're suffering through a split. Many couples reunite after a separation period, provided they have an action plan.
The key is that there's still some spark between you. The enemy of a thriving relationship is not hate; it's indifference. If you're to the point where your ex just doesn't give a crap anymore, it's a lot harder to get things off the ground than if you've just hit a rough spot in your marriage.
Think of passion like the foundation of a house. If two people fall passionately in love, as long as they have that foundation, they will always come back together.
Why? Simple: there's a scientific explanation for it, in fact. Those memories you have of falling in love are not one-sided; the other person remembers them, too. The real enemy of many marriages is that men and women don't know how to speak the same language.
Men think logically; women think emotionally. There are proven differences between the brains of each gender.
So think back on your marriage and ask yourself: was there passion? Do you remember feeling passionately in love with your spouse at one time? If so, then you really, truly CAN rebuild a relationship, provided the circumstances are right, and you go through the proper methods.
Remember: passion is key. If you don't have it, build it, by finding your shared interests. Think of things you both love to do - even if it's just heading down to that spot where you had your first date. Your common interests will automatically create this passionate bond, because you'll both be doing the same thing... the thing you love.
And that will lead to passion and love in your marriage, as well.