You’re in pain, alone, and frustrated over your breakup/divorce. Every relationship has its own unique reasons that lead to separation, but the core reasons are all the same.
Here’s why she left and how you can regain her trust.
1. She did not feel appreciated.
Women will check out of a marriage when they feel unappreciated by their man. If you don’t show your appreciation for your wife through constant reminders (saying thank you, leaving thank you notes around the house, expressing how much you love what she does for you, etc.) then she will start to feel unappreciated.
This will lead to her “checking out” emotionally on your relationship – and in some cases, ultimate separation and divorce.
2. You started fighting all the time.
When a woman stops feeling appreciated by her man, she will emotionally distance herself to avoid feeling more pain. (You might have done this as well.)
This leads to constant arguments and fights. There was a lack of trust and love in your relationship. Neither of you appreciated each other, and without trust and love, your relationship stood no chance.
These are the reasons she left, at their core. Obviously there were minor details, but the bottom line is: she didn’t feel appreciated.
Now, in your quest for “getting back my wife,” you’d like to know…
How can I regain her trust? How can I get her back?
Assuming she is still talking to you, you’ll need to go about this in a specific way. It will involve these steps:
1. Write her a letter.
You need to say in this letter…
“I understand why you wanted to split up. I’m okay with the decision.”
You also need to paint a picture in her mind of you as being happy and solid again. The goal with this is to make yourself seem emotionally stable and grounded. You are going to essentially demonstrate yourself as someone completely “reinvented” in her eyes.
You will seem like a new man to her – not the resentful person she divorced.
2. Start actually reinventing yourself.
You need to actually take steps to improve your life to make yourself attractive to her again when you’re on the quest for “Getting back my wife”.
You should adopt an exercise routine, start eating a healthy diet, and taking care of your emotional needs. Also, have goals in life. Having goals for your job for example will give you solid steps towards building passion – and passion is essential for your woman to want to come back to you.